Attending the cremation of one's non-Muslim grandmother

Q: My father is a Hindu! He says he believes in one God but his religion is Hindu. He doesn’t take part in any of the beliefs and he does not attend the temple. The only thing he does is when a death happens he will do what the religion says until the burial.

My dads mother died and she will be cremated next Wednesday. So he will take in part in a few things.

My question is to you please:

1. Am I allowed to keep seeing my dad as I see him regularly?

2. He wants me to attend the ceremony for the cremation and do a speech for him to support him and say a few words on behalf of my grandmother for my dad as I am his first born?

3. If I’m not allowed to do anything would I be able just to attend to be next to him or is it not permissible? He’s asking me just to come to support him and be next to him.

4. My mother and my father divorced when I was young and Alhamdulilah I stayed with my mum and grew up knowing about Islam and I am a Muslim Alhamdulilah. He is my dad and I just want to be there for him but if Islam says no then I can’t argue with that. If you can please let me know I would be very grateful.

A: He is a hindu. You should be kind towards him without participating in any of their traditions or rituals.

And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.


Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)