Cutting off ties with one's daughter who lives as a non-Muslim

Q: My daughter left our home 4 years ago to live with her father who is a murtad. This was done without my knowledge or consent. Subsequently the step mother had been raising her and introduced her to a Christisian lifestyle. We tried to prevent this and get her to move back home where we are Muslim. The law enforcement informed me that I would be charged with kidnapping if I was to remove her from their house as she was already 18 years old.

Throughout these 4 years she has lived the life of a Christian and has tattoos on her body. I have chosen to not be in contact with her as she refused to change her ways as she was raised in a Muslim household. I have 3 younger children and feel that my attention should be with them.

Recently I was informed that she had fallen pregnant by a Christian guy who she lives with and subsequently the baby has died.

My family are now blaming me even though I've tried my outmost to make her understand that the lifestyle and choices she made is against our religion. Certain family members are going behind my back to support her even though they know she is living as a Christian.

Can I have advice on this matter as my other kids are suffering because of all the stress this child has brought to my family.

A: What you have done is right. Just ignore all negative criticism. Remain firm on the stance that you have taken. May Allah Ta`ala reward you abundantly.

And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.


Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)